Thinking Positive Tips: 10 I Have Learned from My Peers and Mentors

We are all very aware of the impact of thinking positive tips on our happiness as well as our success in life. But how to best maintain this positive attitude is another matter, isn’t it?
How you ever used checklists to improve your productivity … or perhaps your positive mental thinking? How well did they work for you?
thinking positive
Always thinking positive.
The two most powerful things in existence: a kind word and a thoughtful gesture.
Ken Langone
We often use checklists to achieve our goal to create the positive thinking that can see opportunity in every difficulty.
After college, I spent almost two years training as a naval aviator. An important element of that training was the use of checklists in the learning and refresher process. Checklist utilization remains an important part of my business life. It is always a good idea to have a helpful checklist for reminders of improvements for your business or your personal life.
You will perhaps have heard this very old story illustrating the difference between positive thinking and negative thinking:
Many years ago two salesmen were sent by a British shoe manufacturer to Africa to investigate and report back on market potential.
The first salesman reported back, “There is no potential here – nobody wears shoes.”
The second salesman reported back, “There is massive potential here – nobody wears shoes.”
This simple short story provides one of the best examples of how a single situation may be viewed in two quite different ways – negatively or positively.
 
I keep a stack of 10 or so checklists that I rotate and update occasionally. I pull out one checklist to read and contemplate for five minutes as a way to start each day.
I find it puts my thinking in the right frame of mind. Here is one checklist example on simple reminders to improve the odds of success in any task that my team or I may be doing:

 

Savor life’s joys

Deep happiness cannot exist without slowing down to soak up the positives all around you.

 

 

benefits of positive thinking
The benefits of positive thinking.

Be forgiving

Harboring feeling of hate and meanness is horrible for your well-being.

 

 

Avoid social comparisons

Comparing yourself to someone else can be a poison to your positive thinking.

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Express gratitude

When you appreciate what you love, what you love appreciates in value. If you aren’t thankful for what you already have, you will have a hard time ever being positive.

 

 

Thinking positive: Nurture your relationships

The most positive people we know are the ones who make friends easily and work to build deep, meaningful relationships.

 

 

Develop coping strategies

It always helps to have healthy ways to cope with your arsenal.

 

 

Increase flow experiences

We define flow as a state in which it feels as if time is standing still. It occurs when you are so focused on what you are doing that you become one with the task. In this state, nothing competes for your attention.

 

 

Become an optimist

People who think as an optimist see the world as a place packed with endless opportunities, especially in the tougher times.

 

 

Thinking positive … practice acts of kindness

Selflessly helping someone is a super powerful way to create a positive attitude.

 

 

Commit to your goals

Magical things start happening when we commit ourselves to do whatever it takes to achieve our objectives.

 

A useful example 

positive thinking techniques
Positive thinking techniques.
If you are in a business where you deal with people on a regular basis, like we are, your motivation and positive thinking need to be in ‘top gear’ (as it will usually impact most issues of the day).
By spending 5-10 minute reading and thinking about the items on the checklist, you will be better prepared for the events of the day.
Do you consider your company a social commerce business? While there has been considerable hype about social commerce in the last few years, we don’t consider it new … it has been around as long as commerce.
These days there are more channels to engage customers and be social. Positive thinking is everything in this regard.
We like to discuss the importance of positive thinking tips on the success of any business, particularly those that engage with the public to a great extent. Here is a story about a nursery in our region.
It is a story we like to tell because it contains some simple secrets for connecting positive thinking to employee and customer engagement.
A nursery gardener ran a business that had been in the family for two generations. The staff was happy, and customers loved to visit the store, or to have the staff work on their gardens or make deliveries – anything from bedding plants to young trees.
For as long as anyone could remember, the current and previous owners were extremely positive thinking people.
 
Most folks assumed it was because they ran a successful business. In fact, it was the other way around…
A tradition in the business was that the owner always wore a big lapel badge, saying Business Is Great!
The business was indeed generally great, although it went through tough times like any other company. What never changed, however, was the owner’s positive thinking and attitude, and the badge saying Business Is Great!
Everyone who saw the badge for the first time invariably asked, “What’s so great about business?” Sometimes people would also comment that their own business was miserable, or even that they were miserable or stressed.
Anyhow, the Business Is Great! Badge always tended to start a conversation, which typically involved the owner talking about lots of positive aspects of business and work, for example:
The pleasure of meeting and talking with different people every day
Reward that comes from helping staff take on new challenges and experiences
Fun and laughter in a relaxed and healthy work environment
The fascination in work itself, and in the other people’s work and businesses
Great feeling when you finish a job and do it to the best of your capabilities
New things you learn every day – even without looking to do so
The thought that everyone in business is blessed – because there are many millions of people who would swap their situation to have the same opportunities of doing a meaningful, productive job, in a civilized well-fed country, where we have no real worries.
And so the list went on. And no matter how miserable a person was, they’d usually end up feeling a lot happier after just a couple of minutes listening to all this infectious enthusiasm and positivity.
It is impossible to quantify or measure attitude like this, but to one extent or another it’s probably a self-fulfilling prophecy, on which point if asked about the badge in a quiet moment, the business owner would confide:
 
The badge came first. The great business followed.

Key Takeaways from this story

 Remember, this is the time to create remarkable experiences to create lasting relationships with customers. Lead with initiative … own the moment. Remember attitude is everything.  (Want to see some additional tips on how to build customer relationships?)
Being social with great positive thinking and attitude isn’t a new way of marketing; it’s a way of doing business.
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What do you do to get yourself and those around you in the right frame of reference for top performance?
 
Do you have any stories to share your attitude motivation? Any comments or questions to add below?
 
So what’s the conclusion? The conclusion is there is no conclusion. There is only the next step. And that next step is completely up to you.
 
It’s up to you to keep improving your positive thinking and attitude. Lessons are all around you. In many situations, your competitor may be providing the ideas and or inspiration. But the key is in knowing that it is within you already.
 
All you get is what you bring to the fight. And that fight gets better every day you learn and apply new lessons.
When things go wrong, what’s most important is your next step.
Test. Learn. Improve. Repeat.
Are you devoting enough energy to improving your continuous learning for yourself and your team?
Digital Spark Marketing will stretch your thinking and your ability to adapt to change.  We also provide some fun and inspiration along the way. Call us for a free quote today. You will be amazed at how reasonable we will be.
  
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Secrets to Becoming a Remarkably Mindful Leader
Leadership Characteristics That Improve Influence
Mike Schoultz is a digital marketing and customer service expert. With 48 years of business experience, he consults on and writes about topics to help improve the performance of small business. Find him on G+FacebookTwitter, Digital Spark Marketing, and LinkedIn.

A Compelling Speech: Never Worry about Public Speaking Again

Be a master at grabbing and keeping his audience’s attention, which is the number one goal of any public speaker. And also a compelling speech. Take them on a journey by way of an interesting story or maybe several.
a compelling speech
Give a compelling speech.
When I think about compelling presentations, I think about taking an audience on a journey. A successful talk is a little miracle — people see the world differently afterward.
  • Chris Anderson, Ted founder
How do you do it, you say? Pay attention to these 16 key lessons from a rhetorical playbook. Follow them diligently and practice, practice, practice. Let’s get started:
 

A compelling speech … talk about the audience’s interests and need

Tell a story from the audience perspective. Start your talk by broadly defining the challenges that your listeners face. Then, once you’ve got them nodding their heads in agreement, move on to describe the problems or challenges that are on their minds.

 

Match your topic to your objectives and audience interests

This is critical to your success. And to achieve your goal, you must know your audience and do your research homework. Let what you learn to show in your speech.

 

speech formula
The speech formula.

Speech formula … start strong

Use a well-constructed story, question, or staggering fact to set the audience’s mindset. Frame the speech. The first minute is critical.

 

Add color

Use stories, analogies, visuals, humor, and metaphors to add color. Maybe not all in one speech, but select and employ to round out the speech.

 

Communicate through the transfer of emotion

Passion beats all … people feel what you feel. Help them feel it. Don’t rush it. Build in peaks and valleys with defined points of suspense to create curiosity. Use body language that shows you are comfortable and composed.

 

Compelling speech topics

You can keep it simple, even if you have mountains of research to report.
First, fine-tune your core message. Chisel away at your topic until you can reduce your presentation to a core message. Once you achieve this, all your ideas can march behind it.
This is as true for business presentations as it is for political campaigns. Consider Obama’s campaign speeches. He used his simple slogan to make us believe he was the politician for change — something so many Americans longed for — and he appealed to us to have faith (to believe) in the change he was offering us.
He won people through a simple slogan, which then allowed him to more easily serve up his ideas about meaty topics.

 

Don’t be tied to slides

If you are going to use slides, make sure they complement what you say … not be what you say. Few words on a slide and heavy on visuals. And don’t ‘lean-on’ the slides, at all costs

 

Establish the why

compelling speech examples
Compelling speech examples.
You have selected your key message based on your audience research. Early on establish the reason for this theme. Make it important.

 

Delivery techniques

Always use a wireless microform so that you can move around. Vary tone and inflections of your voice.
Maintain good eye contact by picking specific people in the audience. Change them around every moment or so.

 

Employ inflection points

Good plot twists are very effective at holding your audience’s attention. ‘There is something else at play here’. Make them milestones and set them up with pauses to give them space.

 

Alternate between ‘grand insights’ and relevant examples

Weave in proof points and examples. Then you can use the stories to help illustrate you points.

 

Anticipate your audience

Be aware of the great line by Goethe, “Every word that is uttered evokes the idea of its opposite.” What this means is that when you express one view, the odds are high that people will reflexively think about other, unmentioned aspects of the topic.
A presentation that does not deal with this “evoking of opposites” loses the audience’s attention because it fails to address the questions and concerns that come up in people’s minds.
So anticipate them. Show your audience that you understand the contrary view better than they do, and explain why your proposal or argument is still superior.

Effective Presentation Skills That I Learned From the Masters

Master use of pauses

Well planned pauses will do wonders for your speech. For example, Obama has mastered the art of pausing. He pauses to let us catch up with him. He pauses to let his words resonate. He pauses, in a sense, to let us rest. Pauses also give the impression of composure and thoughtfulness.
Where you pause is up to you; there are no hard and fast rules. Try it. Slowly inhale to the count of three at each breath mark. Speak as though you had plenty of time. The goal of this exercise is to teach your body to slow down.

Watch experts and learn

Pay attention to excellent speakers … there are many out there and many on video. Take these tips and watch how the experts apply them. They will not all be the same, so pick things you like and apply them to your style. Continuous learning is the key.

 

Practice and more practice

I’m sure most you have seen Steve Jobs at Apple’s new product announcements or other speaking engagements. He made it look effortless, didn’t he? But it was NEVER without lots of practice.
Videotape yourself during practice, you can then see what the audience will see. Practice the needed changes.

 

Finish strong

As we have said, focus on one theme and eliminate everything else. One relevant message and several great stories to illustrate.
Save your most memorable story for your ending. Hopefully, the one that is also the most encompassing of your message.

 

customer relationships
Build customer relationships.
So what’s the conclusion? The conclusion is there is no conclusion. There is only the next step. And that next step is completely up to you. But believe in the importance of being a great presenter. And put it to good use.
 
It’s up to you to keep improving your presenting skills and efforts. Lessons are all around you. In this case, the best presenters can provide the ideas and or inspiration. And the learning. But the key is in knowing that it is within you already.
 
All you get is what you bring to the fight. And that fight gets better every day you learn and apply new lessons.
When things go wrong, what’s most important is your next step.
Try. Learn. Improve. Repeat.
Are you devoting enough energy to improving your presentation skills?
Do you have a lesson about making your presentation strategy better you can share with this community? Have any questions or comments to add in the section below?
 
Digital Spark Marketing will stretch your thinking and your ability to adapt to change.  We also provide some fun and inspiration along the way. Call us for a free quote today. You will be amazed at how reasonable we will be.
  
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Mike Schoultz is a digital marketing and customer service expert. With 48 years of business experience, he consults on and writes about topics to help improve the performance of small business. Find him on G+, Facebook, Twitter, Digital Spark Marketing, Pinterest, and LinkedIn.

Why We Need New Leadership for These Turbulent Times?

Leadership and teamwork go hand in hand, don’t they? So to build a strong team you need new leadership for these turbulent times, don’t you think? Not doing so well, are we?
need new leadership
We need new leadership.
Future leaders certainly need to grasp this fact and understand the concepts of the best leadership lessons, qualities, and attributes didn’t they?
Coach Mike Krzyzewski said leaders should be reliable without being predictable. They should be consistent without being anticipated. Coach Krzyzewski certainly understood the leadership qualities of the best leadership, didn’t he?
Employ your best leadership.
Spot on. I have been in the military and business world for forty years, and I often get asked what leader qualities contribute to the best leadership.
Developing these qualities is a lifelong learning process. You are never done learning. Every great leader always looks for ways to improve on all of these qualities.
I have been in leadership positions in the military and business world for forty years, and I often get asked what the best lessons for future business leaders I have found. Surprisingly (or not) my list of lessons probably had varied to a degree, depending on when in my career it was constructed.
I have many leadership lessons learned in my years in the military (6 years) and business (35 years). Being a leader is a lifelong learning process. You are never done learning. Every great leader always looks for ways to improve the ability to improve their leadership qualities and attributes. These leadership qualities are a great source of learning.

Trust

Among all the attributes of the greatest leaders of our time, one stands above the rest: They are all highly trusted. You can have a compelling vision, a rock-solid strategy, excellent communication skills, innovative insight, and a skilled team, but if people don’t trust you, you will never get the results you want.
Leaders who inspire trust garner better output, morale, retention, innovation, loyalty, and revenue, while mistrust fosters skepticism, frustration, low productivity, lost sales, and turnover. Trust affects a leader’s impact and the organization’s bottom line more than any other single thing.

 

Truthfulness

listens first and acts second
Listens first and acts second.
Leadership that is not deeply rooted in a foundation of truth is leadership destined to fail. The reality is that the best leaders are also absolutists when it comes to the truth – they view truth as a non-negotiable.
However, in the wake of some of the recent, and highly publicized political scandals, it’s not too difficult to understand how some may question the existence of truth in business or government.
If you peel back the layers on most of the debacles that often transform themselves into highly sensationalized headlines, you’ll see that said problems often begin with rationalizations, justifications, posturing, and spin being substituted for the truth.
 

Courage

People will wait to see if a leader is courageous before they’re willing to follow his or her lead. People need courage in their leaders. They need someone who can make difficult decisions and watch over the good of the group.
They need a leader who will stay the course when things get tough. People are far more likely to show courage themselves when their leaders are.
For the courageous leader, adversity is a welcome test. Like a blacksmith’s molding of red-hot iron, adversity is a trial by fire that refines leaders and sharpens their game. Adversity emboldens courageous leaders and leaves them more committed to their strategic direction.

 

Exceptional leaders have contagious enthusiasm

What sets these leaders apart from mediocre leaders-every time, is a passion and enthusiasm for what they do. Their attitudes are positive, and their temperament is even-handed.
 A leader in your organization with enthusiasm and passion will be the benchmark for the rest of your team. Without them, your work will be hard, but with them, your team can see extraordinary results.
These leaders bring out the best in those they serve.

 

Humility

Great leaders are humble. They don’t allow their position of authority to make them feel that they are better than anyone else.
As such, they don’t hesitate to jump in and do the dirty work when needed, and they won’t ask their followers to do anything they wouldn’t be willing to do themselves.

 

Accountability

Great leaders have their followers’ backs. They don’t try to shift blame, and they don’t avoid shame when they fail. They’re never afraid to say, “The buck stops here,” and they earn people’s trust by backing them up.

Listens firsts and acts second

Someone who jumps to conclusions without first seeking to understand has made a fatal error—for themselves and their team.
To lead people effectively, you have to take the time to listen and see things from their perspective. You have to put yourself in their shoes and fully understand the situation.

Speak appreciation

Maintain patience
Maintain patience.
Gratitude must be a constant drumbeat of your dialogue. Infuse your conversations with an appreciation of your team’s acumen and determination to improve.
Learn to be thankful certainly when there’s great success, but also be thankful for what you’ve learned through the hard times because there’s great wisdom in those experiences.
After you have been knocked down, gain your composure, reflect on why this occurred and make changes.

Keep an open mind

Those who close themselves off from certain ideas and associate only with like-minded people are missing out on not only personal growth but also opportunities for advancing their careers.

Maintain patience

The proper timing of your words and acts will give you a big advantage over people who are impatient.
Have a place for everything, and put everything in its place

 

Inspire and motivate

No matter how good you are, you will only be as successful as your team. So … getting the most from each team member is critical.
We call this being a multiplier leader. Multiplier leaders know the importance of bringing out the smarts and capabilities in everyone around them.

 

Foster teamwork

Peter Drucker made an interesting point when he said that leaders don’t train themselves not to say “I.” He’s implying that leaders innately work with others and let the team get the credit.
They don’t force themselves to say “we.” “We” is natural for them, and it’s the way they’ve always thought.
It can be negative for an organization to have an “employee of the month” or a “who gets credit for what” attitude. You work as a team when you don’t care who gets the credit.
So the next time you see someone with a resume that states, “I accomplished x” or “I did x,” it should send up a few warning signals.

 

Collaboration  

It’s important to know it is OK to ask for help, advice and constructive criticism. There are very few places where a lone wolf leader can be effective.
Decisions are complex, and it takes a village of smart people to help make them. Leaders who aren’t inclusive may find that their organizations lack creativity.

 

Be decisive 

While it’s helpful to get more than one opinion, strong leaders know when and how to make decisions.
Cabinet members could have argued forever, but Lincoln could know when he had all of the information he needed. Walking away to seek solitude, he was able to determine the best solution and make a decision without wavering.
Good leaders clarify their decision criteria, identifying musts and wants, and using that as a guide to compare options. Assess the risk of each option as well as the benefits, to help in making smart tradeoffs between alternatives.

 

Patience

Many leaders are intolerant of others who might do things differently, or at a pace the leader finds unacceptable. Action-oriented leaders may tend to jump to conclusions before things are thought through.
The lack of patience can manifest itself as anger or decisions that aren’t fully thought through. Be patient and reflective and always set aside thinking time. It is imperative for success.

Multiplier leadership

Multiplier leaders know that at the apex of the intelligence hierarchy is not the lone genius.
Instead, it is the leader who knows the importance of bringing out the smarts and capabilities in everyone around them.

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People first

No matter what the job is, leaders always want to look for the best people and then take care of them. An organization is just a group of people working on various creations and inventions.
People are your organization. It is as simple as that. It’s all about the people. They are the lifeblood of the business.
When you’re leading an organization, you’re leading people. It makes sense that leaders need to take care of their people. Many leaders work to have relationships with their employees.
Taking them out for coffee and getting to know them better is common among leaders. Putting people first is an important element in being a leader.

Learn good listening habits

 To be a good leader you have to be a great listener. Brilliant ideas can spring from the most unlikely places, so you should always keep your ears open for some shrewd advice.
Richard Branson
You don’t gain insights by talking. Nope. Ideas can come from anywhere, so it’s important to keep your ears open to new ideas and insight.
Leaders need to be good listeners of everyone … customers to employees to business colleagues. They need to listen to what other people say and not just hear it. Branson even carries a notepad with him so he can take notes on what people say.
Listening also helps a leader get multiple perspectives. When making a decision, a good leader always listens to some different people.
They know they own the final decision but always make sure they get input from multiple different perspectives.

The bottom line

No doubt these leader qualities are ones I demand from future leaders
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More leadership material from Digital Spark Marketing’s Library:
Build an Effective Team by Being a Talent Hound
Success Enablers of Highly Creative Leaders
Secrets to Becoming a Remarkably Mindful Leader
Leadership Characteristics That Improve Influence
Mike Schoultz is a digital marketing and customer service expert. With 48 years of business experience, he consults on and writes about topics to help improve the performance of small business. Find him on G+FacebookTwitter, Digital Spark Marketing, and LinkedIn.

Workplace Stress Reduction: 20 Simple Things You Can Do to Succeed

As business people, we all have times of stress, don’t we? Much of it is workplace stress and workplace stress reduction.
workplace stress reduction
Workplace stress reduction.
I certainly had my share in forty years plus. And I’m sure as many of us are on the lookout for successful ways to reduce all forms of stress. No doubt in my mind.
Philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche once said what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. The idea being that negative experiences can toughen people, making them better able to manage subsequent difficulties.
Check out our thoughts on team leverage
But surely he knew that every entrepreneurial superhero is still mortal? So, even when we feel like we’re capable of doing it all, stress and worry can take its toll on our health and performance.
Some small business owners seem as though they’re always walking on the sunshine, while others are frantically pulling their hair out.
The truth remains: every entrepreneur is faced with challenges in workplace stress. So, how can we prevent, reduce and overcome them?
While life may give you 99 problems, your business shouldn’t be one of them. Not in my mind anyway.
Related value: The Story and Zen of Getting Things Done
Here are some interesting ways to run your business with more ease, reduced stress, and enjoying a more productive routine.

 

Have fun things around your office

Chances are you may be stuck to your desk. Especially if you’re in a home office, it can be lonely, dreary, etc. I love having fun things around like great snacks, my dog, Nerf guns, holiday decorations, and even candles for stressful days.
It’s all about making your space comfy and relaxing for you. Stop to have fun breaks. I stop every hour or so to play with the dog, throw darts, stretch, etc.
 
go for a run
Go for a run.

Go for a run

Two years ago, I started running to help eliminate stress. It didn’t take long for my neck pain and headaches to virtually disappear.
Running does something to reset you mentally, and it improves your creativity and outlook with very little effort. I now build a 3k run into my schedule two or three times per week.

 

Workplace stress reduction: change your environment

On stressful days, I like to get out of the work environment and take a short walk outside.  I’ll try to appreciate the beauty around me, such as the flowers or nice architectural design. Then to calm down and get rid of the stress at the end of a busy day, I’ll take a long hot shower then meditate before bed.
When I have more time, I like to get together with friends to laugh and socialize.

 

Think something positive about your day

I tell my wife a positive aspect to my day instead of just jumping into the negative. It helps change the mood of the evening. I also leave my cell phone at home when I go out to dinner with family and friends. There is nothing worse than getting a bad client email on Friday evening while you’re trying to unwind.

 

Use online productivity tools

I use Apps to help me focus, get organized, and keep track of where I am devoting my time. It’s too easy to get scattered among the many things that I have to do as a small business owner: emails, calls, running social media, marketing, etc.
When I can objectively measure and analyze the amount of time I am spending on each project, I can better assess the return on investment for that time.

 

Workplace stress reduction: make a to-do list

Some people may think to-do lists will add stress because it reminds them of all of the work they have to do. But for me, when I take 30 minutes to plan out a detailed to-do list for the week on a Sunday evening it shows me that I can accomplish it all.
It helps to reassure me that there is no reason to be overwhelmed. Sometimes putting it all on the table makes tasks more achievable and less daunting.

 

Go outside

Take five minutes to go outside, appreciate the outdoors, nice weather, and breathe in some fresh air. You can feel the stress disappear. Then go back to your desk and take a new approach to your stressful situation with a more positive outlook.

 

Set expectations up front

Always set realistic expectations for customers at the very start. This will save you a lot of anxiety and worry in the long run. It is better to “over-communicate.” But when I get super stressed you will find me practicing yoga or at the dog park — both activities put me at ease instantly.

 

Focus on emotional wellness

Go on a ‘genius date!’ An example of a genius date is visiting an art exhibit, taking a dance class or attending a lecture and connecting with a genius outside of your industry.
I go on weekly Kizomba dancing genius dates because they help me connect with my genius and inspire new ideas for my business while reducing stress.

 

Plan ahead

You always have to have a plan B and C, because if things go wrong clients and customers won’t want to hear excuses. They just want results!
This alleviates stress because if you hit a bump in the road, you know there’s back-up to ensure everything runs smoothly.

 

Stay on track with virtual notes

I eliminate stress in my day with a combination of Evernote and a whiteboard on my wall where I keep a list of goals.
As the owner of a small business management firm, it is extremely stressful when we lose paperwork we need to stay compliant.
To eliminate that stress, we’ve organized our paperwork by making digital copies and then storing them online on various applications, like Dropbox. This way, all our information can be easily accessible and never get lost.

 

Develop a regular game plan

Game plan your calendar weekly. Block out time every Monday to sit and reflect on your own and compile your list of action items that you want to accomplish in the week ahead. T
Then keep your focus centered on completing those tasks and not letting your business take you on its ride.

 

Get plenty of exercise and rest

Someone suggested this to me, which seemed crazy to me at the time. Who wants to think about exercise when they are already exhausted and stressed out?
However this year I’ve made it a priority to exercise at least 2-3 times a week and not only am I healthier, but I’ve also noticed a huge change in my attitude as well. There’s something to be said about endorphins.

 

Stop the email insanity

One of the biggest things that stress me out is a constantly growing email inbox. I find that it’s easy for me to spend hours on email, only to find that, 1) I’ve made little progress, and 2) I could have spent the time on the bigger (and more important) projects.
By turning off my phone and signing out of my email, I’m able to work productively and with a lower blood pressure.

 

Create balance

create balance
Always seek to create balance.
Will you work hard, stay up late, wake up early, and push yourself mentally and physically if you are passionate about your business? Yes, of course, you will.
Therefore, make sure that personal time is a part of your schedule. Make appointments with yourself and keep them.
Exercise, meditation, family time, even (healthy) eating can and should be on your calendar as an appointment, just like everything else that is important in your day.

 

Collaborate with your team

Whenever one of us is at a boiling point and feels extremely stressed, our founding team members get together, and we talk through it.
We all have individual tasks and responsibilities to stress over, but we’ve found that continually keeping each other in the loop and talking about them seems to have a very positive calming effect and brings in a natural reality check.

 

Put the situation into perspective

Before reacting, I try to think about where the other person is coming from and how I can help alleviate their stress. Seeing the situation as an opportunity to serve someone instead of as a fire to put out will drastically change the dynamics, lower stress levels and in most cases result in a positive outcome for both parties.

 

Hire good employees

Even though good employees are sometimes few and far between, good ones are worth every penny of their salary. With my employees, I’m able to delegate and trust that they will go above and beyond the call of duty.
My project manager is my secret weapon to combat stress as she keeps tabs on all ongoing projects and tasks so that I can focus on other things.

 

 

The bottom line

These are things that we already know, of course. They are not rocket science and shouldn’t be.
This list of little things simply reminds us of what we have forgotten. Then it is up to us to put these lessons (or reminders) into daily use through persistence and practice.
That will lead to a happier and less stressful life.
How do you prevent, reduce and overcome stress in business? Let us know in the comments section below.

 

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Simple Things You Can Do To Be Happy and Healthy

I’m fascinated by the link between the way we live our daily lives and the way to be happy and healthy.
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Be happy and healthy.
There are choices that you make every day, some of which seem completely unrelated to be happy and healthy, that dramatically impact the way you feel mentally and physically.
Pay attention here: Successful Leaders: 12 Habits Happy People Share
With that said, here are ten common mistakes that can prevent you from when to be happy and healthy.

 

Avoiding meaningful connections

Ultimately, the human experience is about connecting with other people. The connection is what provides value and meaning to our lives. We’re wired for it, and research proves just that.
For example, people with strong social ties were found to be healthier and have a lower risk of death. Additionally, it was found that as age increases, the people with stronger social ties tend to live longer. And it seems that friendships can even help you fight cancer.
The benefits of deep relationships extend to marriage as well. Being in a long-term relationship decreases the risk of depression, suicide, and substance abuse. And one study of almost 6,000 people found that marriage led to increased longevity while never marrying was the strongest predictor of premature death.
Finally, multiple studies (here, here, and here) show that strong family ties are one of the primary reasons the people of Okinawa, Japan have incredible longevity despite being one of the poorest prefectures in the country.
What do all of these different studies tell us?
Connection and belonging are essential for a healthy and happy life. Whether it’s friendship, marriage, or family — humans need close connections to be healthy.
For more about the connection between loneliness and health, I suggest reading the New York Times best-seller Mind Over Medicine, which was written by Dr. Lissa Rankin.
 

Sitting all day

You might want to stand up for this. It turns out that sitting all day has more harmful effects than you might expect.
The short version is that “recreational sitting” like sitting in front of a TV screen increases your risk of cardiovascular disease and death, regardless of your physical activity. Sitting at a desk for work isn’t too good either.
This troubling data doesn’t come from small sample sizes either. These trends held true in one study with 4,500 people, another with 8,800 people, and a final one with over 240,000 participants. If you’re looking for more details on the health risks of sitting, this New York Times article covers some of the basics.
 

Never stopping to relax

A few years ago, I was speaking with a yoga instructor who told me, “I think people love my class because it’s the only time in their entire day when they just sit and breathe.”
That provides some interesting food for thought. From the time you wake up until the time you go to bed, do you ever take 15 minutes to sit and breathe? I rarely do. And that’s a shame because the benefits of mindfulness and meditation are huge. Meditation reduces stress and anxiety. Meditation improves your quality of life and boosts your immune system. Meditation has been shown to decrease anger and improve sleep, even among prison inmates.

 

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Stay healthy and happy.

Not becoming part of a community

There is an interesting and growing body of medical research that has discovered the positive health effects of religion and spirituality. The science doesn’t necessarily say that there is anything inherently healthy about religion, but it’s all the by-products that come from practicing a religion that can make a big difference.
For example, people with strong faith often release control of their struggles and worries to a higher power, which can help to relieve anxiety and stress. Religious groups also offer a strong source of community and friendships, which is critical for health and happiness. In many cases, the strength of friendships formed with fellow believers can last for decades, and those strong personal ties are crucial for long-term health.
If you don’t consider yourself to be a religious person, then the lesson to take away from this body of research is that we all need a sense of belonging and community in our lives. It’s important to share your beliefs (whatever they happen to be about) with a community of people. People who have a community like that to lean on find themselves happier and healthier than those who lack that type of support.
As a starting point, you can read studies on the religion-health connection here, here, and here.
 

Be happy and healthy … Not by ignoring your creativeness

Expressing yourself creatively reduces the risk of disease and illness while simultaneously strengthening your health and wellness. For example, this study from the Harvard School of Public Health revealed that art helps to reduce stress and anxiety, increase positive emotions, and reduce the likelihood of depression, along with many other benefits.
Another study, which was published in the Journal of Biobehavioral Medicine, discovered that creative writing improved the immune system response of HIV patients. For more ideas on why creating art is healthy, read this: The Health Benefits of Creativity.
 

Not spending any time outdoors

Exploring the world around you — whether that means traveling to faraway lands or hiking through the woods in your area — provides a wide range of mental and physical benefits. For starters, the benefits of sunlight (and the negative effects of artificial light) are well-documented in research.
Additionally, researchers have begun to discover that wilderness excursions — known as “adventure therapy” — can promote weight loss, improve the self-esteem of people with mental illness, and even reduce the rearrest rates of sex offenders.
The central theme that runs through all of these studies is that exploring the outdoors and spending time in nature can increase the confidence you have in yourself and improve your ability to interact with others.

 

Consuming and not contributing

The contribution is an essential part of living a life that is happy, healthy, and meaningful. Too often we spend our lives consuming the world around us instead of creating it. We overdose on low-quality information. We live sedentary lives and passively eat, watch, and soak up information rather than creating, contributing, and building our things.
When you cease to contribute, you begin to die.
—Eleanor Roosevelt
You can’t control the amount of time you spend on this planet, but you can control what you contribute while you’re here. These contributions don’t have to be major endeavors. Cook a meal instead of buying one.
Play a game instead of watching one. Write a paragraph instead of reading one. You don’t have to create big contributions; you need to live out small ones each day.

 

Working a job that you dislike

As you might expect, it’s dangerous to work too much. In Japan, the overtime and workplace stress has become so bad that they have a label for the people who die because of it: karoshi, which means “death by overwork.”
Any way in which your job makes you feel stressed is bad for your health — unpredictable commutes, tension, and disagreement with your boss or coworkers, feeling undervalued or unappreciated. Even working overtime increases the risk for coronary heart disease, independent of outside factors.
What can you do about it? No one strategy will work for everyone, of course, but the principles in The Happiness Advantage by Shawn Achor offer a great place to start.

 

Eating by yourself

Brian Wansink, a Cornell professor and author of Mindless Eating, has written that when people eat alone, they are more likely to have a large binge feeding. Additionally, diets suffer when people eat alone. Lonely diners tend to eat fewer vegetables and less healthy meals. It seems that we make less of an effort to eat well when we are by ourselves than when someone else is involved.
Given that an estimated one out of three people eats lunch at their desk, it’s easy to see how these little choices add up to big health problems over the long-term.

 

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How to be happy.

Not believing in health, happiness, and love

Brene Brown is a researcher at the University of Houston, and she has spent ten years studying vulnerability. In recent years, her work has exploded with popularity as she delivered one of the most popular TED Talks of all-time and had written multiple best-selling books including Daring Greatly and The Gifts of Imperfection.
As Brown studied fear, uncertainty, and vulnerability, she discovered one key insight…
“There was only one variable that separated the people who have a strong sense of love and belonging and the people who struggle for it. And that was that people who have a strong sense of love and belonging believe they’re worthy of love and belonging.
That’s it. They believe they’re worthy. The one thing that keeps us out of connection is the fear that we’re not worthy of connection.”
If you allow your fear or vulnerability or shame to prevent you from showcasing your true self, then you will be preventing yourself from connecting fully with others. If you want to be able to move past fear, judgment, and uncertainty and into a healthier and happier life, then you have to permit yourself first. You have to decide that you’re worthy.
For a much deeper and more useful discussion of vulnerability, I suggest reading Brown’s books: Daring Greatly and The Gifts of Imperfection.
 

 

The bottom line

Living a healthy life is about much more than just diet and exercise. Don’t forget about the ten areas above because they play a significant role in your health and happiness.
As Lissa Rankin often says, “What does your body need to heal?”
In many cases it’s not a better diet or a new workout program, it’s one of these areas that might be impacting your health and happiness without you even realizing it.
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Coaching Tool by Carol Dweck: Using Praise as a Motivator

Carol Dweck is quoted as saying: the wrong kind of praise creates self-defeating behavior. The right kind motivates students to learn. It can be an effective coaching tool.
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An affectation coaching tool.
Have you ever done any reading from Carol Dweck? If not, you’ll probably find her research on using praise very interesting. This will be particularly true if you have children or grandchildren in the extended family.
Why may you ask? It is simply that Stanford Professor Carol Dweck has discovered that how we praise our children can benefit or detriment their self-view.
Being mindful of how you praise your child can help your child foster a growth mindset and boost his or her motivation, resilience and learning. All very important to us all, aren’t they?

 

Who is Carol Dweck?

Professor Carol Dweck is a psychologist at Stanford University and the prime force behind mindset theory. Dweck’s research has led her to the conclusion that each will place themselves on a continuum according to their implicit belief of where their ability originates.
In simple terms, this means that those who tend towards believing in ‘nature’ or innate ability as the prime factor in determining their success are defined in Dweck’s model as having ‘fixed mindsets’ or fixed theories of intelligence.
At the other end of the continuum are those that believe in their success, and the success of others comes from hard work, learning, and persistence. These people are defined as having ‘growth mindsets’ or incremental theories of intelligence.

 

 

what are mindsets
What are the mindsets?

What are the mindsets?

In the fixed mindset, people believe that their talents and abilities are fixed traits. They have a certain amount, and that’s that; nothing can be done to change it. Many years of research have now shown that when people adopt the fixed mindset, it can limit their success.
They become over-concerned with proving their talents and abilities, hiding deficiencies, and reacting defensively to mistakes or setbacks-because deficiencies and mistakes imply a (permanent) lack of talent or ability. People in this mindset will pass up important opportunities to learn and grow if there is a risk of unmasking weaknesses.
-Carol Dweck
When you praise intelligence, you foster a fixed mindset, the belief that one’s intellectual ability is inherent. Those with a fixed mindset tend to agree with statements such as “You have a certain amount of intelligence and cannot do much to change it.” They see mistakes as a failure and as signs that they aren’t talented enough for the task.
More concerning, they seek experiences that reinforce their ability and prove their intelligence, leading them to avoid challenging tasks. The desire to learn becomes secondary.
In the growth mindset, people believe that their talents and abilities can be developed through passion, education, and persistence. For them, it’s not about looking smart or grooming their image. It’s about a commitment to learning–taking informed risks and learning from the results, surrounding yourself with people who will challenge you to grow, looking frankly at your deficiencies and seeking to remedy them. Most great business leaders have had this mindset because building and maintaining excellent organizations in the face of constant change requires it.”
-Carol Dweck
 
When you praise effort, you encourage a growth mindset, the belief that intellectual ability can be developed through education and effort. Those with a growth mindset believe that they can get better at almost anything, as long as they spend the necessary time and energy. Instead of seeking to avoid mistakes, they see mistakes as an essential precursor of knowledge.

 

 

Coaching tool: the Dweck experiment

For the past ten years or so, psychologist Carol Dweck and her team at Columbia (she’s now at Stanford) studied the effect of praise on students in a dozen New York schools. Her work—a series of experiments on 400 fifth-graders—paints the picture most clearly.
The Dweck experiment
The Dweck experiment.
Dweck sent four female research assistants to New York fifth-grade classrooms. The researchers would take a single child out of the classroom for a nonverbal IQ test consisting of a series of puzzles—puzzles easy enough that all the children would do fairly well.
Once the child finished the test, the researchers told each student his score, and then gave him a single line of praise. Randomly divided into groups, some were praised for their intelligence. They were told, “You must be smart at this.” Other students were praised for their effort: “You must have worked hard.”
Why just a single line of praise? “We wanted to see how sensitive children were,” Dweck explained. “We had a hunch that one line might be enough to see an effect.”
Then the students were given a choice of test for the second round. One choice was a test that would be more difficult than the first, but the researchers told the kids that they’d learn a lot from attempting the puzzles.
The other choice, Dweck’s team explained, was an easy test, just like the first. Of those praised for their effort, 90 percent chose the harder set of puzzles. Of those praised for their intelligence, a majority chose the easy test. The “smart” kids took the cop-out.
So why did this happen? “When we praise children for their intelligence,” Dweck wrote in her study summary, “we tell them that this is the name of the game: Look smart, don’t risk making mistakes.” And that’s what the fifth-graders had done: They’d chosen to look smart and avoid the risk of being embarrassed.
In a subsequent round, none of the fifth-graders had a choice. The test was difficult, designed for kids two years ahead of their grade level. Predictably, everyone failed. But again, the two groups of children, divided at random at the study’s start, responded differently.
Those praised for their effort on the first test assumed they simply hadn’t focused hard enough on this test. “They got very involved, willing to try every solution to the puzzles,” Dweck recalled. “Many of them remarked, unprovoked, ‘This is my favorite test.’ ” Not so for those praised for their smarts. They assumed their failure was evidence that they weren’t really smart at all. “Just watching them, you could see the strain. They were sweating and miserable.”
Having artificially induced a round of failure, Dweck’s researchers then gave all the fifth-graders a final round of tests that were engineered to be as easy as the first round. Those who had been praised for their effort significantly improved on their first score—by about 30 percent. Those who’d been told they were smart did worse than they had at the very beginning—by about 20 percent.
Dweck had suspected that praise could backfire, but even she was surprised by the magnitude of the effect.
“Emphasizing effort gives a child a variable that they can control,” she explains. “They come to see themselves as in control of their success. Emphasizing natural intelligence takes it out of the child’s control, and it provides no good recipe for responding to a failure.”
In follow-up interviews, Dweck discovered that those who think that innate intelligence is the key to success begin to discount the importance of effort. I am smart, the kids’ reasoning goes; I don’t need to put out effort. Expending effort becomes stigmatized—it’s public proof that you can’t cut it on your natural gifts.
Repeating her experiments, Dweck found this effect of praise on performance held true for students of every socioeconomic class. It hit both boys and girls—the very brightest girls especially (they collapsed the most following failure). Even preschoolers weren’t immune to the inverse power of praise.
 

Learning implications

Praising kids for smarts encourages them to avoid the most useful kind of learning activities, those in which we learn from our mistakes. Without experiencing and focusing attention on mistakes, minds will not revise its models. Mistakes are repeated and challenges avoided. Those with fixed-mindsets seek self-confidence at the expense of self-improvement.
Watch this 4-minute video where Carol explains the impact of this theory. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NWv1VdDeoRY

 

 

Examples to consider

One of the most important concepts I’ve learned is the difference between the “fixed” mindset and the “growth” mindset.
This sounds simple, but it’s surprisingly deep. The fixed mindset is the most common and the most harmful, so it’s worth understanding and considering how it’s affecting you.

 

For example:
In a fixed mindset, you believe “She’s a natural born singer” or “I’m just no good at dancing.”
In a growth mindset, you believe “Anyone can be good at anything. Skill comes only from practice.”
This is important because (1) individuals with a “growth” theory are more likely to continue working hard although setbacks and (2) individuals’ theories of intelligence can be affected by subtle environmental cues.
In other words, it is possible to encourage students, for example, to persist despite failure by encouraging them to think about learning in a certain way.

 

Key takeaway

Carol Dweck’s mindset theory is a powerful way of enhancing motivation and the desire to learn. Give it a try; you’ll be surprised to interpret the results.
 
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Effective Listening Skills: Your Go-Getter’s Guide to Improve Skills

We are losing our listening. We spend roughly 60 percent of our communication time listening, but we’re not very good at it. We retain just 25 percent of what we hear. Let’s define listening as making meaning from sound. It’s a mental process, and it’s a process of extraction. We all can have effective listening skills , can’t we?
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Effective listening skills.
We use some pretty cool techniques to do this. One of them is pattern recognition. (Crowd Noise) So in a cocktail party like this, if I say, “David, Sara, pay attention,” some of you just sat up. We recognize patterns to distinguish noise from the signal, and especially our name.
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Differencing is another technique we use. If I left this pink noise on for more than a couple of minutes, you would cease to hear it. We listen to differences; we discount sounds that remain the same.
And then there is a whole range of filters. These filters take us from all sound down to what we pay attention to. Most people are entirely unconscious of these filters. But they create our reality in a way because they tell us what we’re paying attention to right now.
Let me give you one example of that: the intention is very important in sound, in listening. When I married my wife, I promised her that I would listen to her every day as if for the first time. Now that’s something I fall short of on a daily basis. But it’s a typical intention to have in any relationship.
We’re becoming impatient. We don’t want oratory anymore; we want sound bites. And the art of conversation is being replaced — dangerously; I think — by personal broadcasting. I don’t know how much listening there is in this conversation, which is sadly very common.
We’re becoming desensitized. Our media have to scream at us with these kinds of headlines to get our attention. And that means it’s harder for us to pay attention to the quiet, the subtle, and the understated.
This is a serious problem that we’re losing our listening. This is not trivial. Because listening is our access to understanding. Conscious listening always creates understanding. And only without conscious listening can these things happen — a world where we don’t listen to each other at all is a very scary place indeed.
So I’d like to share with you tools you can take away with you, to improve your conscious listening.

Effective listening skills  … we spend a lot of time listening

Adults spend an average of 70% of their time engaged in some communication. Of this, research shows that an average of 45% is spent listening compared to 30% speaking, 16% reading, and 9% writing. (Adler, R. et al. 2001). That is, by any standards, a lot of time listening. It is worthwhile taking a bit of extra time to ensure that you listen effectively.
Based on the research of Adler, R., Rosenfeld, L., and Proctor, R. (2001) 
Interplay: the process of interpersonal communicating (8th edn), Fort Worth, TX: Harcourt.
Effective listening requires concentration and the use of your other senses – not just hearing the words spoken.
Listening is not the same as hearing, and to listen effectively; you need to use more than just your ears.
Listening is the ability to accurately receive and interpret messages in the communication process.
Listening is key to all effective communication. Without the ability to listen effectively, messages are easily misunderstood. As a result, communication breaks down, and the sender of the message can easily become frustrated or irritated.
If there is one communication skill you should aim to master, then listening is it.
We listen to obtain information. We listen to understand. We listen for enjoyment. We listen to learn. Given all this listening we do, you would think we’d be good at it!
In fact, most of us are not, and research suggests that we remember between 25 percent and 50 percent of what we hear. That means that when you talk to your boss, colleagues, customers or spouse for 10 minutes, they pay attention to less than half of the conversation. Isn’t amazing fact it?
importance of listening skill
Importance of listening skill.

Be fully in the moment

Have you ever been speaking to someone and found that they are distracted by something and not listening to you? You probably thought this was annoying, frustrating, and disrespectful. At that point, you may have even become angry or shut the conversation down.
When someone is speaking it is vitally important to be fully present and at the moment with them. If something else is on your mind, like a call you have to make, or a text you need to answer, let them know, do what you need to do, and when you are finished let them know you are ready to listen.
When listening pay attention not only to the words but the tone of voice, facial expressions, and body language. This will give you information that will be as important as the words themselves.

Effective listening skills  … practice active listening

Most people are thinking of how they are going to reply when someone is talking. Instead of doing that, try to focus completely on what the person is saying. Pretend that you will be tested on how much of what they were saying you heard and understood.
A good exercise to practice is to sit down with a family member or a good friend and practice simply giving feedback to them of what you heard them say. You will notice that it gets much easier to focus on their words when you aren’t worrying about how you will respond.

Keep an open mind

Listen without judging the other person or mentally criticizing the things she tells you. If what she says alarms you, go ahead and feel alarmed, but don’t say to yourself, “Well, that was a stupid move.” As soon as you indulge in judgmental bemusements, you’ve compromised your effectiveness as a listener.
Listen without jumping to conclusions. Remember that the speaker is using language to represent the thoughts and feelings inside her brain. You don’t know what those thoughts and feelings are and the only way you’ll find out is by listening.
Don’t be a sentence-grabber. Occasionally my partner can’t slow his mental pace enough to listen effectively, so he tries to speed up mine by interrupting and finishing my sentences. This usually lands him way off base, because he is following his train of thought and doesn’t learn where my thoughts are headed.
After a couple of rounds of this, I usually ask, “Do you want to have this conversation by yourself, or do you want to hear what I have to say?” I wouldn’t do that with everyone, but it works with him.

 

types of listening skills
Types of listening skills.

Don’t interrupt and don’t impose your “solutions”

Children used to be taught that it’s rude to interrupt. I’m not sure that message is getting across anymore. Certainly, the opposite is being modeled on the majority of talk shows and reality programs, where loud, aggressive, in-your-face behavior is condoned, if not encouraged.
Interrupting sends a variety of messages. It says:
  • “I’m more important than you are.”
  • “What I have to say is more interesting, accurate or relevant.”
  • “I don’t care what you think.”
  • “I don’t have time for your opinion.”
  • “This isn’t a conversation, it’s a contest, and I’m going to win.”

We all think and speak at different rates. If you are a quick thinker and an agile talker, the burden is on you to relax your pace for the slower, more thoughtful communicator—or for the guy who has trouble expressing himself.

When listening to someone talk about a problem, refrain from suggesting solutions. Most of us don’t want your advice anyway. If we do, we’ll ask for it. Most of us prefer to figure out our solutions.

We need you to listen and help us do that. Somewhere way down the line, if you are bursting with a brilliant solution, at least get the speaker’s permission. Ask, “Would you like to hear my ideas?”

 

Give the speaker regular feedback

Show that you understand where the speaker is coming from by reflecting the speaker’s feelings. “You must be thrilled!” “What a terrible ordeal for you.” “I can see that you are confused.” If the speaker’s feelings are hidden or unclear, then occasionally paraphrase the content of the message. Or just nod and show your understanding through appropriate facial expressions and an occasional well-timed “hmmm” or “uh huh.”
The idea is to give the speaker some proof that you are listening, and that you are following her train of thought—not off indulging in your fantasies while she talks to the ether.
In task situations, regardless of whether at work or home, always restate instructions and messages to be sure you understand correctly.

Pay attention to nonverbal cues

If you exclude email, the majority of direct communication is probably nonverbal. We glean a great deal of information about each other without saying a word. Even over the telephone, you can learn almost as much about a person from the tone and cadence of her voice than from anything she says.
When I talk to my best friend, it doesn’t matter what we chat about, if I hear a lilt and laughter in her voice, I feel reassured that she’s doing well.
Face to face with a person; you can detect enthusiasm, boredom, or irritation very quickly in the expression around the eyes, the set of the mouth, the slope of the shoulders. These are clues you can’t ignore. When listening, remember that words convey only a fraction of the message.
 

Listen to the central ideas, not for all the facts

Experienced leaders develop a sense for noticing the most important information conveyed by their people. They hear the main themes and ideas from their employees. If you notice the major ideas, then often the facts “come along” with those ideas.

Demonstrate listening skills by paraphrasing

Paraphrasing and summarizing are both fantastic communication skills that help you to make sense of a speaker’s points and also allow you to demonstrate that you are listening closely.
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For example, if your colleague talks for five minutes about her current difficulties on your shared project, you might try saying something like:
“So, you’re feeling very frustrated that your feedback isn’t being taken into account, and you’re hoping to organize our team in a way that facilitates more frank discussion.”
Although this sounds like a simple listening technique, it can show that you “get” the other person. It can also go a long way toward preventing misunderstands and misattributions.

The bottom line

The examples of effective listening skills are all around us. All we have to do is be open minded in how we look and how we apply the best lessons learned.

The biggest mistake people make when it comes to listening is they’re so focused on what they’re going to say next or how what the other person is saying is going to affect them that they fail to hear what’s being said. The words come through loud and clear, but the meaning is lost.

A simple way to avoid this is to ask a lot of questions. People like to know you’re listening, and something as simple as a clarification question shows that not only are you listening, you also care about what they’re saying. You’ll be surprised how much respect and appreciation you gain just by asking questions.

Now it’s your turn. What are the best listening skill ideas you have seen lately?
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Simple Presentation Slides: The Go-Getter’s Guide to Improvement

With more than 40+ years of business, I have seen and given more than my share of presentations. Do you know my biggest pet peeve? Having simple presentation slides, hands down. Why should this be such a challenge? In my opinion, it is because the presenter needs the crutch.
simple presentation slides
Simple presentation slides take hard work.
I like to take inspiration from many TED Talks. The experiences I’ve reviewed in these talks grip audiences, entertain, convey information, and deliver strong messages. I’ve become keenly aware of the many examples that inspire me to keep getting better.
I’ve also been able to master some tricks of the trade that consistently help me design slides that rise above the noise and connect with audiences.
Creating a beautiful presentation requires a symphony of visual elements to work together for a “big picture.” Designers seek to make the entire vision work together regarding how each part interacts. This includes layout, typography, and imagery, which all add up to a cohesive set of design elements. So, how can you orchestrate the chaos of design in your next presentation?
Putting together great looking slides can be quite a challenge. Why is this? The reason is that the overall process of designing a deck requires much more than just a keen eye for aesthetics. Creating a stunning presentation actually involves a variety of disciplines, and design can only take you so far. This guide will cover all there is to know about presentation design.
So whether you are a designer in the look for some ideas for your graphics work, or simply a regular presenter who wants to improve the quality of your slides, you’ve come to the right place.
The following tips, which contain several simple tweaks you can make to your presentation slides help ensure you create slides that are clear, aesthetically pleasing, and persuasive. Use the principles below to guide your way.
By focusing on making the following small design decisions (or changes), you can make a big impact on the results of your talk.

One idea per slide

Presenters often include many ideas on one slide, doing their best to be efficient with their slide real estate. An honorable gesture, but unnecessary in a digital world.
During a live presentation, visuals exist in time as well as space. The audience doesn’t need to stare at the same four points while the speaker weaves his story around each of them. So, make sure each of your presentation slides only focuses on one main idea.  This lets the audience absorb them one at a time and (once again) highlights the speaker’s voice as the most important part of the experience.

 

Thoughts on choosing fonts

Serif fonts (like Times New Roman) have little extra details at the end of letter strokes.They tend to work better when your words go on for more than one line. The letters in sans-Serif (like Helvetica) don’t include those extra details, tend to be bigger and bolder, and generally work better in short bursts, like in headlines, captions, and short phrases. Sans serif fonts tend to be the fonts for most PowerPoint and Keynote presentations.
For many presentations, we like to choose simple sans serif fonts like Helvetica. We prefer sans serif fonts for slides a few reasons: it’s a relatively standard font, so we wouldn’t have to worry about mix-ups backstage; it’s a clean, easily readable, sans-serif font; and, well… we LOVE Helvetica here at Digital Spark Marketing. You don’t have to use Helvetica specifically for every presentation, but it can be a good fit if you’re looking for the best font for presentation design to communicate a clear, digestible message.

 

simple powerpoint design
Have a simple powerpoint design.

Remove the unnecessary

This applies to the content of your talk and also to the visuals you use. Cutting the superfluous is one of the hardest things to do because when we are close to the topic, as most presenters are, it *all* seems important. It may be true that it’s all important, but when you have only ten minutes or an hour, you have to make hard choices of inclusion and exclusion. This is something professional storytellers know very well. What is included must be included for a good reason. I’m quite fond of the advice by the legendary writer Anton Chekhov“Remove everything that has no relevance to the story. If you say in the first chapter that there is a rifle hanging on the wall, in the second or third chapter it absolutely must go off. If it’s not going to be fired, it shouldn’t be hanging there.”

Emphasis

It is important to have some element of your design that stands out and grabs the attention of your audience. You can do this by using the size, color or placement of the object to increase the focus on a certain part. To select the element of design to emphasize, ask yourself: What is the most important feature of this slide?
To add emphasis, make your text bolder, an image larger or use a color brighter than your base.

 

Make them feel

Storytellers—filmmakers, novelists, etc. — know that it is an emotion which impacts people most profoundly. Yes, facts, events, structure are important, but what people remember, and what is more likely to push them to act, is the way the narrative made them feel.

Balance

There are two types of balance: symmetrical and asymmetrical.
Symmetrical balance: with this type of balance the elements on both sides of the design are in similar location and size. If you were to draw a line down the middle of a symmetrical design, it would be a mirrored image on both sides. An example of this would be the human face.
You can use this technique by making sure lettering, images, and other elements are aligned and equally weighted on both sides of a slide.
Asymmetrical balance: each side of the design is different, yet still balanced. For example. You could have one large box on the left side and several smaller boxes on the right. This kind of balance creates a more visually intriguing dynamic on a slide.
Incorporate asymmetrical design by using larger visual elements in one area of the space, until the place you want the viewer to focus on is featured.

 

Movement

Designers often use curved lines to instill a sense of motion and to encourage the eye to move sequentially from one point to the next. This can be an important tool when you are trying to move an audience through a story, or present a series of information on a slide.

 

Custom background

simple presentation example
A simple presentation example.
PowerPoint and Keynote both come with a selection of nice backgrounds to choose from. Used appropriately, they can be the perfect backdrop for your presentation. However, they all share the disadvantage of being available to everyone who uses PowerPoint or Keynote. This means they might be boring—and you want your presentation to be unique.
So, choose a custom background for your slides. Some important factors to keep in mind when choosing a custom background include:
  • Uniqueness, but also subtlety, so your background doesn’t distract from the message
  • Cohesion with the presentation environment (if you know what it will look like)
  • The focus of the presentation – whether the background should highlight the words of the talk, or call attention to images
So where can you get a custom background? One place to look is stock photo sites, like istockphotoor Shutterstock. They have thousands of textures and gradients for sale, many of which would make an excellent background for your presentation.

Unity

Your design should always feel unified so that all of your slides are connected visually, and your deck has a consistent look and feel. The elements on your page must relate to one another through design elements such as color, shape, texture and so on. For example, if the elements on the page feel like they were placed without purpose, then your design will feel scattered, and your audience will likely be confused about the tone of your message.

 

Simple presentation slides: use transitions

If you’ve watched TED talks online, you’ve probably noticed that their presentations include some subtle transitions and a small animation or two.  If the presentation was designed well, you probably felt the transitions in the TED Talk slides but didn’t notice them.
Can you imagine engaging with the speaker’s voice while words are zipping and flying back and forth on the screen? Sadly, you probably can. Instead of focusing on animation, use a small amount of movement to add something subtle to the whole presentation.
While animations and transitions can help, if you feel your animations don’t add something positive to your presentation, you’re probably better off taking them out.

 

Image design

If you want to go straight to a resource that makes images available for slides, check out a site like Pixabay, which offers images that can be used and reused commercially for free—without needing to pay for any special license. You can also check out a resource like PresentationPro, which offers a PowerPoint Graphics Pack for purchase and includes many royalty-free graphics and images that you can use throughout your presentation slides.
If you’ve followed these to edit your talk presentation, you probably found that the “makeover” to your slides was pretty simple and didn’t take too much time. Luckily, however, even these small improvements will make a dramatic impact on the result. Keep these tips in mind the next time you need to “clean up” your presentation slides.

 

The bottom line

 

Developing an eye for these different design elements can be learned, and there are plenty of resources online that can help guide you along. Think of the overall elements of design as a way to edit down the visual pieces of your existing presentation to organize and make them more cohesive. Next time you work on a presentation, go through this list and check off the elements it has. Then, try to incorporate any missing pieces in your next draft.
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Mind Wandering: Do You Know Why It Creates Better Learners?

Humans spend about half of their waking hours thinking about something other than what they’re doing in the present. A now-famous Harvard study illuminated this reality, using an iPhone app that pinged participants at random times throughout the day and asked them what they were thinking about. Mind wandering?
mind wandering
Why mind wandering?
It found that 50% of the time, their minds were wandering from their current task. Also, they were significantly less happy when their minds were roaming than when they were focused on the present.
This is probably because of most of the time; the mind is just generating noise and gibberish. Gibberish like worries, memories, reenactments of the way things should have been, and projections of the future. It’s easy to get swept up in our thoughts, and sometimes it’s addictive.
Mind-wandering allows one part of the brain to focus on the task at hand, and another part of the brain to keep a higher goal in mind. Christoff (2009) at the University of California, Santa Barbara has evidence that people whose minds wander a lot are more creative and better problem solvers. Their brains have them working on the task at hand but simultaneously processing other information and making connections.
A wandering mind takes more in: good and bad. This leads to new ideas. But it can take you up — and it can take you down.
Focus doesn’t allow the noise in. But the noise is what allows creativity to spark.
You already have rituals that put you into a zone; you just may not realize it. What you want to do is use them deliberately
But it’s not very pleasant, as most of us know and studies have found, and it’s not great for mental health over the long term.

Build a team whose members have diverse backgrounds and mindsets. This broadens the creativity process.

Each person will contribute different thoughts and ideas, which lead to unique conversations when everyone comes together. The education, background, and experience of individual members lead to a creative group.

Team members will learn from one another. Different perspectives lead to new skills and effective innovation strategies. The result is a stronger team equipped to take on new challenges and quickly solve problems of all sizes.

If you feel like your mind is everywhere but in the present, here are some of the methods that both history and science have proved work to pull yourself back into the present.
How do you get focused? How do you unwind? Here is why mind wandering leads to the best learning. Start using these more deliberate techniques, and you can make yourself happier as well as more creative when you need to be.

Wandering is the mind’s natural state

The most common view of the human mind assumes that our normal way of thinking consists of concentrated focus upon immediate tasks at hand. But researchers have found that this is not the case.
Daydreaming is now considered to be the normal state of our minds, with focus appearing as a break from the more common mind wandering. A recent study has found that our mind wanders forty-seven percent of the time we are awake with very few activities not equally peppered with natural periods of daydreaming.
The fact that daydreaming is the natural state of the human brain suggests that those who take most naturally to daydreaming will best exhibit the skills necessary for successfully navigating the human world. Far from representing a lack of discipline, daydreaming is a hallmark of a healthy and active human mind.

 

Breathe

This is a great method because it’s one that works even if you don’t believe it will. People have used breathing to calm their nervous systems over millennia, and science has recently shown why it works, neurologically.
There’s a cluster of cells in the brainstem that controls different types of breathing—sighing, laughing, gasping, and others. A slow breathing subgroup was identified earlier this year, by researchers who also noted its projections to higher areas of the brain, involved in arousal and wakefulness.

 

Have a mini-interaction with nature

Lots of evidence spending time out in nature helps mood, well being, and stress levels. But not everyone can jaunt out to the forest when they’re feeling overwhelmed. Interestingly, a new study reported that just a momentary interaction with an item of nature had a big influence on mental health.

 

Meditate

This is probably one of the hardest things to make yourself do in a moment of anxiety, but it also may be the best. Though meditation has been linked to myriad neurological and psychological benefits over the long term, luckily most experts agree that even a few minutes of sitting and focusing the mind can do a lot to calm it.
Mindfulness training has been shown to quiet the areas of the brain that are responsible for the chattering of the monkey mind—and within seconds. So try sitting and focusing on anything you choose—the breath; a short mantra, either in your head or aloud; the sounds in the room or outside.
Every time your mind wanders, simply note that, and bring it back to what you were focusing on. That’s what the practice is—redirecting our attention, again and again.

Motivation

It’s a truism that our “dreams,” by which we usually mean our goals and desires, motivated in life. What is less recognized, however, is the central role played by the process of daydreaming in envisioning and imaginatively experiencing the lives we wish to lead and people we want to become.
Our goals and desires are what they are because we have spent time freely living through our daydreams what it would be like to achieve them. For these reasons, daydreaming in learners is related to higher levels of ambition and a deeper sense of motivation.

 

Increased insight

Did you ever wonder what causes that moment of insight when something suddenly clicks, or a solution becomes clear? The answer is a lot of hard work on the part of your brain that goes unnoticed.
Moments of insight, those sudden revelations that seem to come from nowhere, are long prepared for through the brain’s ongoing hidden organizing and processing. Daydreaming, as a mental state activating both the default and executive networks of the brain, plays an important role in that organizing and processing. What you may think is your mind drifting is your mind actively forming connections between information, synthesizing what was previously only chaos, and preparing the ground for the moment when things suddenly fit into place.

Confidence

Freely imagining “what you would do if…” is far from idle. Having envisioned scenarios and played out possible events gives us an increasing sense that we can handle them.
In this way, the imaginative anticipation that often occurs in daydreaming contributes as much to a robust sense of confidence as it does to a healthy motivation.
Think about it this way; daydreaming is a training ground for your mind where it plays through and sometimes struggles with scenarios it has not experienced or wants to react differently to in the future.
Though successful training certainly doesn’t guarantee success during the real event, it does provide a mental preparedness and a firm sense that no matter what may occur we can deal with it.
For this reason, some of the most confident learners are also those with the healthiest daydreaming lives.

 

Talk to someone

Being stuck in your head can be destructive partly because there’s no real order to the monologue, and no sounding board to help put things in perspective.
And part of the reason that therapy, talking to a friend, and even journaling are all effective in reining in mind is that they provide perspective—the very act of crafting your thoughts into a coherent narrative helps you understand them better. 

 

creative thinking
More creative thinking.

Critical thinking and intelligence

Creative thinking can be an extension of ordinary mind-wandering, the researchers explained, and a growing body of research has linked daydreaming with creativity.
In highly creative people, psychologists have observed a tendency toward a variation on mind-wandering known as “positive-constructive daydreaming,” in which has also been associated with self-awareness, goal-oriented thinking, and increased compassion.
As this study suggests, a healthy amount of daydreaming is connected to improved critical thinking capabilities, an invaluable characteristic in successful learners.
It has also been shown that daydreaming is dramatically more present in those considered to be of superior intelligence when compared with learners of average intelligence.

Split second thinking

In his book Blink: The Power of Thinking Without Thinking Malcolm Gladwell discusses the phenomenon of “thin-slicing,” the mind’s jumping to conclusions based on surprisingly little information.
Despite what we tend to assume, Gladwell demonstrates that jumping to conclusions based on limited information is often statistically the most reliable way to arrive at the right decision.
The key point about thin-slicing is that its effectiveness depends upon two factors. Knowledge, especially when derived from experience, and mental integration that allows for swift access to the knowledge and experience we have gained.
If we return to our image of daydreaming as the training ground of the mind, the increased integration it imposes on knowledge and experience we have collected improves our ability to jump to conclusions based on little information successfully.
It makes us more successful thin-slicers and improves our split-second decision making.

 

Better problem solving

better problem solving
Better problem solving.
What is problem-solving? From what we have already said we might suggest it is an effective use of the default and executive networks of the brain resulting in increased intelligence, critical thinking, insight, and thin-slicing.
The argument that the integration of default and executive networks results in improved problem solving is offered by the author of Daydreams at Work: Wake Up Your Creative Powers, Amy Fries. In an article in Psychology Today: “…your mind-wandering capacity is like that computer program–it can get to solutions that your conscious mind just can’t see.”
In general, daydreaming makes us better thinkers. Being better thinkers makes us better learners.

 

Staying cool

The traditional view of daydreaming understands it as a form of escapism.
We are unhappy or uninterested in where we are and so imagine we are somewhere else. It is important, this view assumes, to resist this escapist urge and instead cope with the world as it is. It turns out. However, that daydreaming is itself a central element of our mental coping mechanisms.
As already mentioned, daydreaming provides the brain with the exercise course where it can secretly play out different solutions to problems.
More than this, however, those precious daydreaming moments allow us the conscious rest necessary to face difficult tasks or situations with a fresh mind.
During these seeming moments of rest, the brain is still hard at work beneath the surface organizing potential responses without the awkward interference of conscious thought.

 

The bottom line 

Coping is a key element of mental elasticity, the ability to shift our thought and behavior smoothly in response to changing situations and information.
Daydreaming, as the practice ground for mental processing, greatly increases the mind’s ability to shift in the face of unanticipated events and situations smoothly.
So while daydreaming clearly contributes to organizing information and experience we have already learned, making the learned material more useful by improving our ability to apply it, it also enhances our response time in the face of the unexpected.
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Life Lessons Learned Late: The Ugly Truth of Forgetfulness For You

Most people go through their lives without really stopping to think about the way they want to live. Then, as they get older, they may look back with regret. They often wish they could have done things a little differently. Perhaps life lessons learned late was the reason.
life lessons learned late
Life lessons learned late.
Life lessons are full of wisdom because they often have to be learned the hard way.
However, the hardest part of that process is realizing that sometimes not every opportunity lasts forever. You finally “get it” long after the fact.

Life Lessons Learned: 10 I Wish I Had Learned Earlier

If possible, it’s best to learn these things sooner rather than later.
But in my case, it’s not too late because life teaches me continually. Here are some life lessons I have learned early before getting old 🙂

Life lessons learned late … accepting yourself

 Many people spend their whole lives picking on themselves, beating themselves up, and hating various aspects of who they are. But the more you fight against who you are, the more stuck and resentful you’ll become.
It’s particularly pointless hating things about yourself that you can’t change. If you want to improve yourself, that’s fine.
Self-Acceptance enables you to undergo that process in a supportive, helpful way. Life is much less of a struggle when you treat yourself as you would a dear friend.
This means accepting yourself as a human being, with all your flaws, idiosyncrasies, and strengths.
 
 

Things that are worthwhile often take time

 It feels like I see a new success story every week. “New technology startup raises $100M at a $1B valuation!” People see overnight success.
What they don’t often see are the late nights at the office until 2 AM. Whether it’s love, work or friendship, everything worthwhile takes time.
So learn to be patient. And invest your time wisely.
 
 

Life lessons learned late … a positive attitude is contagious

 I try to surround myself with positive, upbeat people that want to make a difference in the world. Every time I do that, I walk away feeling energized and passionate about life.
Find three people that you deeply admire and spend time with them.
Seriously, ask them to coffee, lunch or yogurt. Notice how you feel after you meet with them? You should be saying “I feel awesome.”
Combine that awesome feeling with a dose of yogurt, that’s borderline life changing. If you’re lactose intolerant, I’m sorry.
 
 

Hustle is the antidote to fear

When I wanted to start my digital marketing blog, I had no idea how to build a nice website or how to build a community following. I was also pretty scared of failing again.
What if I wrote for years and no one ended up going to my website?
What if no one cared about marketing tips? And then I realized, even if only ten people signed up, I would still feel awesome about making a difference in 10 people’s lives.
And that was enough to get me started. Ever since then, I’ve been hustling none stop. I’ve now written almost 2000 Quora answers (and counting).
Oh, and that blog?  It has gotten an average of almost 3000 views per day.
Still, need more encouragement to go out there and make it happen? Take a note from this quote from Richard Branson –
“If somebody offers you an amazing opportunity, but you are not sure you can do it, say yes – then learn how to do it later!”
Stop fearing. Start doing.
 

Life lessons learned late … less is more 

Life is all about quality, not quantity. You are lucky if you have a few true friends.
Note when the adversities come then you got to know who are your true friends.
 
 

Cultivate good hobbies 

A person who has a hobby is never alone. I love reading books, writing and analyzing difficult situations.
Many of these habits I have developed in the college of hard knocks.
 
 

Life lessons learned late … simple is good

Life has so much clarity when you keep things simple.  For example:
Want to understand better? Listen carefully.
Miss a loved one? Visit them. Or call.
Want to achieve? Hustle.
 
 

Worrying is not a good use of energy

 I built my first website almost seven years ago. I was worried our competitors would copy us.
I worried we would lose over the long term because we didn’t have the marketing budget that they had.
Guess what? It didn’t matter. We got more than 3000 subscribers to our newsletter. But alas we couldn’t get our users to come back frequently enough.
So I spent all that energy and time worrying over nothing. Worrying is one of the biggest wastes of energy.
Stop worrying. Start hustling. Noticing a recurring theme?
 
 

Life lessons learned late … happiness is a state of mind

 Looking back on my life, the unhappiest moments occurred when I thought I had to achieve a certain goal to be happy.
That’s not the way happiness works. You can be happy right now. Be happy that you’re alive. You’re breathing.
You’re here in this incredible moment that we call life. That gives you all the reasons you need to be happy.
  

Life lessons learned late … take more risks

 Life is too short to play it safe all the time. Too many people work at a job they hate for years instead of pursuing their real passion.
Remember that the only thing worse than death is a regret filled coffin.

Physical health

The habits you form when you are younger are the foundation for your physical health later. You don’t want to struggle with crippling health problems in older age.

Life lessons learned late … life is meaningful

The beauty of life involves the relationships you make with other people. The memories you make with them are most important.
 

Make time

Make time for friends, your significant other, and family. You never know when you may lose someone close to you.
 

Life Is fragile

As amazing and liberating life can be, it is also precious, fragile, and can be lost in an instant. This makes it even more important to cherish every moment you’ve been blessed with.

Life lessons learned late … all about people 

Life is all about people. So, wherever you go, value people. Respect them, add value to their life through your association.
I am trying to add value for those who are reading this. Thank you for being patient to read.
 
 

Don’t worry what other people think

 People have different outlooks, based on their personality and experience. Why would anyone’s views about you be more valid than your own?
You may even be imagining that people are judging you when they’re not. The solution is to stop concerning yourself with others’ judgments, real or imagined. The simple fact is they are irrelevant.
No-one ever became truly happy by impressing other people.
 
 

Life lessons learned late … live in the present 

The human mind is perfectly designed for worrying about the past or fretting about the future. The result is not living in the present moment at all.
You may tell yourself you will be happy when you’ve got X or done Y or finally dealt with Z.
You may focus so much on your goals, that you don’t enjoy the journey.
But, you can have moments of happiness right now, wherever you’re at in the grand scheme of things. You don’t have to put your happiness on hold.
Be grateful for whatever you do have, rather than not allowing yourself to enjoy things now.
If they’re not exactly how you want them yet, don’t fret. Every moment is precious, and every day offers you new opportunities to be happy.
 
  

Let go of perfection 

You don’t have to have all the answers. You don’t need always to be right. You don’t have to aim for perfection — you don’t even need to be close.
Making progress is much more important than seeking to achieve perfection. Perfection, after all, is unattainable. Accept that and move on.
 

The bottom line

These are things that we already know, of course. They are not rocket science and shouldn’t be.
This list of little things simply reminds us of what we have forgotten. Then it is up to us to put these lessons (or reminders) into daily use through persistence and practice.
Remember … your experience and learning trumps all!
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More reading on mentoring from Digital Spark Marketing’s Library:
Remarkable Lessons in Motivation Steve Jobs Taught Me
How to Create Honest Employee Trust and Empowerment
The Story and Zen of Getting Things Done
10 Positive Thinking Ideas from Peers and Mentors
 
Mike Schoultz is a digital marketing and customer service expert. With 48 years of business experience, he consults on and writes about topics to help improve the performance of small business. Find him on G+FacebookTwitter, Digital Spark Marketing, and LinkedIn.